There have been a lot of different takes on the impact of Covid on sex lives. Many single people seem to want relationships after the loneliness they may have experienced in 2020.
I find this so interesting. I must be a real miserable bitch because of all the things I regretted in 2020, not being coupled up when New York Pause hit, was never one of them. In fact, I thanked God early and often I wasn't locked down with one of my exes. And I don't have any desire to couple up this summer.
I'm just a girl who wants to have fun.
But you know, this is harder than you might think. Men have this delusion that a woman, especially an attractive one, can get sex anytime they want. This really isn't true unless you 1) have zero discernment 2) do not value your life.
I think number 1 is self-explanatory right? You need to feel that click, which btw, does not have to be the Mister Right click. There is definitely a Mister Right for Tonight click, trust me.
It's the second one that trips people up. See, men are generally free to go anywhere with anyone. Women on the other hand, have to try and read minds. Like, is this guy going to tie me up and torture me to death is a real question we have to ask ourselves.
Men are the predator species. That's just a fact. I have had so many white men throw crime statistics in my face, as they try and get me to "admit" that black men commit more crimes than white men. Personally, I don't even trust the stats because I know for a fact a lot of white men who beat up and/or rape women, especially including their wives and girlfriends, are never reported.
But anyway, when they show you their special numbers, and you look at them, it's all perspective right? And these douches never think about looking at it from a woman's perspective.
"WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU?!"
Well, douche, what that tells me is that men are predators and women should be highly concerned.
In fact, women should be profiling all men. And if we want to live, trust me, we do.
So taking home the hot guy from the bar down the road we just met that night? Not really a good option for us. Some of us still do it. I've done it. But I realize how lucky I was, and it's not something I'm eager to try my luck at again.
Back in 2013, I was really on the prowl for some no-strings sex. It was a lot tougher than you can imagine! First of all, I just don't find that many men sexually attractive. It's always something with them you know? One of my most recent dates had bad breath. Not the kind of really bad breath you would notice in conversation, don't get me wrong. But when we were making out, I noticed it. It wasn't terrible, but it did bother me.
I confess I had noticed in the car when he picked me up that his teeth were fine, but...a bit yellowed. I'm so shallow I'm really sorry. About two months ago one of the guys who works in my apartment complex, it had been a while since I saw him without his mask, and he gave me this big smile, and damn, such beautiful white teeth. I could have dropped my panties right there. This gives me an incredible amount of guilt because I know how obscenely and inexcusably expensive dental work is, and I hate myself for this. But that's an issue for my therapist. One of many as you have probably discerned by now.
There are lots of other things. Like, sometimes you think you found someone you want to casually sex, and then you find out they're married, the fuckers. I have slept with married men when I was younger, but at some point I realized I just didn't want to cause another woman pain. Women have enough pain.
Anyway, back to 2013. One weekend I met this blacksmith from Massachusetts and his forearms were FIRE. I have a thing for forearms. I mean, arms in general, but a thick muscular forearm will really get me.
And we were having the most wonderful fling. We would meet in Connecticut and have the most amazing sex all weekend.
Until I somehow allowed him to convince me to move in together. Against my better judgement to be sure.
Goodbye hot sex hello angst!
I'm trying this summer, I really am. I won't be one bit surprised if I end up not boning anyone all summer though. Either way, once my hot VAXXED summer is over, I am going to join a dating site in the fall. Which will be a whole new fresh hell of course. But I can't wait to write about it!
In the meantime, fuckboy summer 2021 audition number 4 coming up this week! Believe me, I am doing my best to bring back casual sex. I'll keep you posted.